What is orgasm control?
Orgasm control means prohibiting, intentionally delaying or forcing orgasm. Control usually comes from the dominant part and can take place briefly, during a specific game situation, or over a longer period of time, for example in the form of chastity. One of the most popular forms is edging, a practice in which the submissive part is consciously brought close to climax only to be denied it.
What’s the appeal of that?
As with most forms of play and kinks, this is also about the power game. The bottom gives up control of one of the body’s most basic mechanisms to another person. This in turn can increase the excitement and feeling of control the more often the sub is stimulated to his or her limits. When and how release and thus orgasm occurs is literally in the hands of the top. This also applies to the form of orgasm control in which the sub is forced to have orgasms again and again. Even if he or she doesn’t actually want to anymore or is overstimulated.
Unlike practices that create control through external features, such as restricting freedom of movement, in orgasm control the exciting game of pressure and relaxation is directed more internally. Long-term orgasm control or even chastity also requires discipline from the sub, which is why this practice is often used as punishment.
What is there to consider?
Before you can delay another person’s orgasm or even control it and deny it at the last moment, you obviously need to be familiar with the other person’s preferences and reactions. Each of us has a different experience and only when the top understands how the sub “works” can successful orgasm control take place.
It is also important to adjust the duration and intensity of the control so that the submissive play partner does not ultimately become frustrated. If the prospect of a climax is denied for too long or too often, the game can lose its appeal for some.
When it comes to forced orgasms, care must be taken to ensure that the overstimulation that usually accompanies it does not go beyond the sub’s pain limits.
