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Hotwife or Cuckoldress…
…is a term for a female-identified person who lives in a committed relationship with a usually male partner and, with his knowledge, has sexual relationships with other people. Often the Hotwife or Cuckoldress is sexually dominant over her partner, the Cuckold or Cuckquean, and her outward play serves to reinforce her dominance. Her partner has full knowledge of her activities and takes pleasure in them, as well as enjoying the feeling of degradation that comes with them. Male-identified Doms with a Cuck as a partner do not yet have a dedicated designation.
The Hotwife decides whether her cucki is present during a meeting with the lover or is only allowed to listen, tells him/her about the activities before or after the meeting or not and generally determines the extent to which she wants Cucki to participate in her sexuality to participate. In most cases, it also determines the partner’s sexual life, for example whether and when he/she is allowed to orgasm.
Although the Hotwife or Cuckoldress finds sexual and other emotional satisfaction with her lover (Bull or Cuckcake), the bond with the partner is usually much stronger than with the lover.
What roles is a cuckoldress related to?
Hotwifes and Cuckoldresses are a subset of Tops, Doms or Masters or Mistresses. The degrading element also makes them similar to Degraders. If the relationship also includes physical punishment, the role is related to Sadists. Some Hotwifes also like to keep their Cuckolds chaste or as Sissy and thus have additional characteristics of feminizers.
On the other hand, many Hotwifes are Switches who subordinate themselves to the Bull as a Bottom or Sub.
Who matches with a Hotwife?
A Cuckold or a Cuckquean, clearly. Maybe also a Sub, a Serf, a Degradee or a Sissy with an interest in cuckolding
But wait: A cuckolding relationship doesn’t work without at least one other person in the group, a Bull. Bulls are sometimes also called “stallions”. This reference to the animal kingdom is intended to emphasize their potency even more. The female equivalent of the Bull is called Cuckcake.
How do I know if I’m a Hotwife or Cuckoldress?
You basically feel dominant, enjoy the conscious power dynamic within the partnership and the demonstration of your power over your partner. Your partner is not averse to cuckold play or has even expressed a desire to do so. Nevertheless, your partner is more important to you than your desire for sexual freedom.
The last point is particularly crucial. Because if you are only interested in the cuckold dynamic because you see it as an opportunity to sleep with as many people as possible or because the game appeals to you for reasons of revenge or something similar, stay away. On the outside, you may be the center of attention, but this dynamic is about a deep emotional connection that Hotwife and Cuck have with each other.
As a Cuckoldress it is important that…
…you include your partner in your activities. Because cuckolding should not be confused with a free pass for cheating. It’s not just about having sex with others, but rather that these sexual contacts serve to humiliate the submissive partner, which in turn is a need for that person.
The Cuckold or Cuckquean is told the events and is allowed to watch, serve, prepare dates, clean genitals, be insulted or humiliated in other ways. Of course, it can also be the case that a Hotwife meets other people outside and doesn’t tell her permanent partner anything about these activities if the Cucki wants that. However, the Cuck must never be excluded in a way that he or she does not want or is not part of the agreement.
Just as taboo as secrets is the disregard for the boundaries of the Cuck. Complex relationships like the cuckold dynamic, which also take place outside the bedroom and where humiliation and degradation play a central role, carry the risk of blurring the line between reality and play. Therefore, it is important that, as a Hotwife, you discuss boundaries with your partner in great detail, remain sensitive to the feelings of your Cuck, and ensure that your relationship is rooted in deep trust.
Note:
The vocabulary surrounding “Cuckold”, “Hotwife” or “Cuckoldress” and “Bull” usually refers to a constellation of heterosexual dominant man (Bull), heterosexual, female Dom or Switch and heterosexual, submissive man, as the latter includes cuckolding-preference most common and the vocabulary emerged.
While the terms “Cuckquean” for female cuckolds and “Cuckcake” for the female equivalent of a Bull have become established over time, the term “Hothusband” has recently emerged for male Doms with a cuck partner. However, as of now, there are no established gender-neutral terms for these three roles for non-binary individuals interested in cuckolding.
