When you start exploring BDSM, you often hear the term “scene” or “community” – also here on Deviance. But who are all these people, and when do you become part of it?
Who or what is actually the BDSM community?
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So… how to get to a BDSM munch?
The culture of BDSM munches is unique to the scene. But what should one wear there? And how does a beginner start a conversation with people?
Navigating subspace: into the depths of a submissives mind
The term “subspace” is not about the universe but about BDSM. It refers to a trance-like state where the real self dissociates from the role-playing personality…
Fetish by colors: the Hanky Code
The Hanky Code is unfamiliar to many now, but it used to be a widely used system in the LGBTQ+ scene. Find out here what the colors mean.
Topping from the bottom: your wish is my command
When do we actually talk about “topping from the bottom,” how does this phenomenon arise, and why is it such a controversial term?
Session: it’s time to play!
What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”
I just want to: play!
Why is the term “play” or “play partner” often used in BDSM? While it sounds better than “doing BDSM”, not everyone likes the term.
What the famous safeword is all about
One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
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