Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.
Sexuality
Primal – Wild thing, you make my heart sing
“Primal” is a BDSM practice in which participants fully embrace their animalistic instincts, including biting, scratching, and grunting.
How to find out if someone is into BDSM
Whether it’s a new acquaintance or a long-term relationship, how do you find out if another person is into BDSM or open to try it?
The Slut: a new sexual confidence
Today, “Slut” in the BDSM context describes a sexually confident person. Here, there’s no fixed hierarchy of top or bottom.
Vanilla? Really?
Many people are into BDSM without realizing it. Yet, much of what is practiced in the so-called vanilla realm often has nothing to do with consent anymore.
Sex-positive: party motto or lifestyle?
Just a trendy marketing name for parties or a way of life? Does being sex-positive automatically mean sex parties or just that everyone has a place here? And what does that have to do with book clubs?
Lea – the battle cry of a bore?
“It’s the rage that motivates me to stand up for the BDSM community.” Why Lea, web and app developer in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
Masochism: The M in BDSM
Masochism describes the sexual pleasure derived from suffering and pain. But why do some people enjoy it, and where does this preference come from?
Perverse – wrong, twisted, unacceptable?
The term “perverse” originally means “turned around” or “reversed”. The adjective is often used in a sexual context.
Share the article
This might also interest you
Safe and sexy: Help make Deviance a safer place
Trustworthy fun: Every verified profile helps build a network of trusted members. Together, we're making Deviance a platform where you can truly let go.
Update: Deviance Search for even more fun! Filter and find!
Finally! The feature you've all been waiting for is here! With Deviance Search, you can now filter profiles by identification, orientation, kinks, and more.
Femdom – Under female leadership
Although "Dom" is gender-neutral, the term is still often associated with male dominance, which is why the specific term "Femdom" emerged.
Medical play: where fantasy meets care
BDSM is always black and red? Not at all, many kinksters love to play in the realm of "white BDSM", which refers to medical play.
Sticky fingers? 69 ideas for the first message to your match!
Score, you have a match! But now? Who writes first? And what do I write? The first message in can sometimes be quite sweaty. Here are 69 ideas.
BoundCon 2024: Gloss, Latex, Barbie gone wild, and a fabulous party
Since 2004, the bondage and fetish fair BoundCon has been held in Munich. For its twentieth anniversary, we at Deviance were also present and here share our impressions with you.
Deviance Premium: How does the payment work?
You've decided on a premium membership? Great! Here's how to manage your subscription and settings.
The pleasure of nipple clamps
Nipple clamps promise a special kind of pleasure pain. But beware! Not all have the same effect and evoke the same sensations.
What do the buttons under the profiles mean?
Probably you've seen it since the introduction of the premium features: Instead of two buttons, there are now five buttons under each profile suggestion. But what do they mean?
Here they are: new features for your kinky dating!
Finally: The Deviance Premium features are here! Four new functions to increase your chances of exciting kinky encounters. Here's how.