Tunnel play is an umbrella term for BDSM activities that, once started, cannot be stopped. Find out here what makes it appealing.
Tunnel play: until the (bitter) end
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Playing on a thin edge: knife play
Knife play sounds like big knives and dangerous play. How exactly this looks in BDSM and where to start can be found here.
Row, row, row the boat: paddle
What is a paddle anyway, and what is it used for in BDSM? We’ll explain what’s behind this popular impact tool.
Candles in BDSM: things to consider
Candles are used in BDSM within wax play. But be careful! There are several things to consider when buying and using them.
Sperm stopper – pleasure through closure
A sperm stopper is a penis plug that prevents semen from leaving the penis during ejaculation. Explore why some find this arousing.
Cane – Not an empty threat
As inconspicuous as a cane may look, the more nasty the pain caused by this caning tool is. Find out here what types there are.
Sadism: The second S in BDSM
Sadism refers to the often sexual pleasure derived from inflicting pain. Where does it come from and how is sadism practiced in BDSM?
Masochism: The M in BDSM
Masochism describes the sexual pleasure derived from suffering and pain. But why do some people enjoy it, and where does this preference come from?
It’s getting hot: wax play
A tantalizing BDSM practice with a unique visual aspect: Wax play involves dripping or pouring hot wax onto bare skin.
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