When do we actually talk about “topping from the bottom,” how does this phenomenon arise, and why is it such a controversial term?
Topping from the bottom: your wish is my command
read more
Dominance
Rape play – A sensitive fantasy
What is rape play and what makes this BDSM practice appealing? We’ll explain what it’s all about and what to consider.
Dom drop: Those who fly high can fall low
Despite all precautions, things don’t always go smoothly in BDSM. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a dom drop and what causes it.
The blackmailing game
In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
Ruined orgasm – Hands off!
A ruined orgasm is a practice where a person experiences climax without satisfaction. Find out here how to ruin an orgasm.
Tease and denial – Finding pleasure in frustration
Whether as a heightened state of sexual arousal or as a means of erotic torment and humiliation, tease and denial can be used in diverse ways, even outside of the BDSM context.
Chastity for beginners: silicone cock lock
The silicone cock lock is a relative of the chastity cage and chastity belt, but much better suited for beginners interested in chastity.
FLR – When the woman is the boss at home
FLR is the abbreviation for “Female Led Relationship,” a type of relationship in which, by agreement, a dominant woman is in charge.
Share the article
This might also interest you
The big Christmas giveaway from Orion and Deviance: Make your holiday season extra kinky
Advent is just around the corner, and we at Deviance have come up with something really special to increase the excitement for Christmas. Together with our partner Orion, Europe’s largest erotic retailer, we’re launching the Deviance Advent campaign – a sensual giveaway that will definitely heat you up in the…
Talk dirty to me: Dirty talk ideas beyond cum cannons and juicy slits
Dirty talk doesn't have to be like in porn. Sometimes it starts very subtly. How do you step out of your comfort zone...
Dirty Talk – Words that hit the spot
Words are a powerful weapon once you overcome the hurdle of starting to speak. Why people are into dirty talk - and why they aren’t.
Fetish fair 101: navigating your kink experience
A fetish fair offers much more than just shopping. No matter which one you attend, you’ll be stepping into a world full of diversity. Find out here how to make the most of your visit.
Safe and sexy: Help make Deviance a safer place
Trustworthy fun: Every verified profile helps build a network of trusted members. Together, we're making Deviance a platform where you can truly let go.
Update: Deviance Search for even more fun! Filter and find!
Finally! The feature you've all been waiting for is here! With Deviance Search, you can now filter profiles by identification, orientation, kinks, and more.
Femdom – Under female leadership
Although "Dom" is gender-neutral, the term is still often associated with male dominance, which is why the specific term "Femdom" emerged.
Medical play: where fantasy meets care
BDSM is always black and red? Not at all, many kinksters love to play in the realm of "white BDSM", which refers to medical play.
Sticky fingers? 69 ideas for the first message to your match!
Score, you have a match! But now? Who writes first? And what do I write? The first message in can sometimes be quite sweaty. Here are 69 ideas.
BoundCon 2024: Gloss, Latex, Barbie gone wild, and a fabulous party
Since 2004, the bondage and fetish fair BoundCon has been held in Munich. For its twentieth anniversary, we at Deviance were also present and here share our impressions with you.