Score, you have a match! But now? Who writes first? And what do I write? The first message in can sometimes be quite sweaty. Here are 69 ideas.
Sticky fingers? 69 ideas for the first message to your match!
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How to create a kinky dating profile
Indeed, dating profiles offer the opportunity to reveal more about one’s personality than offline interactions. Here are our tips.
How to talk kinky online… and how dafuq not
Profile viewed, smiled at the picture, swiped right. And… It’s a match! But what now? Here are our tips on how to turn the chat into a success.
Limits: hard and soft, but always important
In BDSM, setting limits establishes the framework within which play occurs. There are distinctions between hard and soft limits, which exist on both the submissive and dominant sides.
16 questions to ask your date
Conversations are sometimes not an easy matter, especially on BDSM dates. Here are 16 questions that will put your date through their paces.
Talking about preferences: “And what are you into?”
Talking about preferences, inclinations, and fetishes can be daunting, feel unfamiliar, and evoke feelings of shame. Here are seven ideas.
The basic of playing: Consent
Since BDSM games can often be uncomfortable, painful, or even dangerous, consent in BDSM has a special significance.
What the famous safeword is all about
One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
How to start with BDSM as a couple
What if one partner expresses a desire to try BDSM fantasies? How do you go about it? A guide for BDSM beginners.
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