“FRIES is one of many consent models in BDSM, alongside SSC and RACK, and is particularly a good guideline for beginners.”
FRIES – tastes good even without ketchup and mayo
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BDSM principles
Say no to drugs! Especially to BDSM and drugs…
BDSM and drugs, both promise a high. But these extremes do not belong together. In this article, you’ll find a concentrated load of raised index fingers.
YKINMKBYKIO: I don’t understand it, but I like it!
YKINMKBYKIO stands for Your Kink is not my Kink but your Kink is okay. This is a basic principle of the BDSM community promoting tolerance.
Intox play: Is it BDSM?
Intox Play and Chemsex are currently big topics in the sex-positive community. But can playing under the influence of drugs even be considered BDSM?
RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink
The RACK concept cannot be discussed without the SSC philosophy, as it questions the principles of the latter and emphasizes individual responsibility more strongly.
SSC – Safe, Sane, Consensual
With the rise of the RACK philosophy, the usefulness of SSC has been increasingly questioned, as the principle of safety is considered open to interpretation.
BDSM and alcohol: don’t drink and kink!
For many people, alcohol is a stimulant, it relaxes us and puts us in the mood. We explain why he has no place in BDSM.
Topping from the bottom: your wish is my command
When do we actually talk about “topping from the bottom,” how does this phenomenon arise, and why is it such a controversial term?
What does CNC (consensual non-consent) mean?
CNC stands for consensual non-consent, meaning the desire for something to happen against one’s will. Find out what this can look like here.
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