Who hasn’t been there? You have an interesting match, but the spark for the first message just isn’t there. A topic that the podcast “Die Kunst der Unvernunft” has also explored.
BDSM experiences
From Munich with love…
How fast should it go, and how many coincidences are actually still normal? Miss Lena shares her experiences on Deviance.
Help, the person I like is not kinky!
Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.
Hoofbeats and heartbeats: Nighty Swifthoof from stable to spotlight
Pony play may seem very bizarre to outsiders, yet it’s a popular aspect of BDSM. Nighty Swifthoof is a human horse and let us slip into his hooves.
A love letter to the sense of shame
When playing with humiliation, you’re also playing with the sense of shame. A personal story about what there is to like about it.
Vanilla view: an interview about BDSM
How does a vanilla perceive BDSM? Marcel has never had any exposure to the topic. I wonder what kind of image he has of us kinksters?
Faster, further, better… about competition in BDSM
Others’ experiences can be very unsettling for BDSM practitioners. Comparisons are inevitable. Guest author Julia on competitive thinking.
KatKristall – Kinkucation with glitter
“My contradictory preferences are something I draw strength from.” Why KatKristall, author on the Deviance team, writes about BDSM.
Am I a pervert? – (Entertaining) thoughts
Nobody had to say to me, “That’s perverted!” counter-emotional. I knew that others would label my sexual behavior as perverted.
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