When you start exploring BDSM, you often hear the term “scene” or “community” – also here on Deviance. But who are all these people, and when do you become part of it?
Who or what is actually the BDSM community?
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BDSM basics
What is a drop and why does it happen?
A drop occurs when someone cannot emotionally handle a BDSM session and negative feelings take hold. Why this happens and how to avoid it.
Switch – Two souls in one chest?
As a switch in BDSM, it’s important that you don’t let people tell you that you have to choose the dominant or submissive side.
So… how to get to a BDSM munch?
The culture of BDSM munches is unique to the scene. But what should one wear there? And how does a beginner start a conversation with people?
RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink
The RACK concept cannot be discussed without the SSC philosophy, as it questions the principles of the latter and emphasizes individual responsibility more strongly.
SSC – Safe, Sane, Consensual
With the rise of the RACK philosophy, the usefulness of SSC has been increasingly questioned, as the principle of safety is considered open to interpretation.
Bondage: The thing with the ropes, right?
Bondage, in a sexual context, refers to all types of play in which someone is restrained from moving freely in some way.
Role-play: escaping into pleasure from everyday life
Role-play is not only a popular way to spice up sex life in BDSM. But why do we actually enjoy role-playing?
Queer: a change of perspective
When you start to explore BDSM and the BDSM community, one of the terms you come across is ‘queer’. But what does that actually mean?
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