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BDSM basics

BDSM Basics are essential for a safe and consensual introduction to BDSM. On Deviance, find everything you need for a successful start. Learn about the fundamentals, from communication and safewords to practical first steps. Our guides and tips help you create a respectful and secure BDSM experience while exploring your preferences and protecting yourself and your partners.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Who or what is actually the BDSM community?

When you start exploring BDSM, you often hear the term “scene” or “community” – also here on Deviance. But who are all these people, and when do you become part of it?

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

What is a drop and why does it happen?

A drop occurs when someone cannot emotionally handle a BDSM session and negative feelings take hold. Why this happens and how to avoid it.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Roles

Switch – Two souls in one chest?

As a switch in BDSM, it’s important that you don’t let people tell you that you have to choose the dominant or submissive side.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

So… how to get to a BDSM munch?

The culture of BDSM munches is unique to the scene. But what should one wear there? And how does a beginner start a conversation with people?

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink

The RACK concept cannot be discussed without the SSC philosophy, as it questions the principles of the latter and emphasizes individual responsibility more strongly.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

SSC – Safe, Sane, Consensual

With the rise of the RACK philosophy, the usefulness of SSC has been increasingly questioned, as the principle of safety is considered open to interpretation.

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

Bondage: The thing with the ropes, right?

Bondage, in a sexual context, refers to all types of play in which someone is restrained from moving freely in some way.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Role-play: escaping into pleasure from everyday life

Role-play is not only a popular way to spice up sex life in BDSM. But why do we actually enjoy role-playing?

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

Queer: a change of perspective

When you start to explore BDSM and the BDSM community, one of the terms you come across is ‘queer’. But what does that actually mean?

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Session: it’s time to play!

What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

I just want to: play!

Why is the term “play” or “play partner” often used in BDSM? While it sounds better than “doing BDSM”, not everyone likes the term.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity

Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Sadism: The second S in BDSM

Sadism refers to the often sexual pleasure derived from inflicting pain. Where does it come from and how is sadism practiced in BDSM?

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

Masochism: The M in BDSM

Masochism describes the sexual pleasure derived from suffering and pain. But why do some people enjoy it, and where does this preference come from?

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Discipline – The first D in BDSM

The D in BDSM stands for “Discipline,” among other things, and similar to Dominance, it involves following rules. But where is the difference?

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Perverse – wrong, twisted, unacceptable?

The term “perverse” originally means “turned around” or “reversed”. The adjective is often used in a sexual context.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

Dominance: Something like leadership quality?

Dominance is one of the six major areas and, along with “Discipline,” is behind the D in BDSM. And yet, dominance can manifest itself in various ways.

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

Aftercare – What it comes down to

Aftercare refers to the mutual psychological and emotional support of the players immediately after a BDSM session by talking about and reflecting on the experience.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Submission – The fine art of surrender

In exploring the concept of submission, one delves into the dynamics of power and trust within interpersonal relationships. A conscious decision to relinquish control or authority.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Limits: hard and soft, but always important

In BDSM, setting limits establishes the framework within which play occurs. There are distinctions between hard and soft limits, which exist on both the submissive and dominant sides.

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

Kinky – a bend in sexuality

In general language usage, “kinky” describes sexual practices, concepts, or fantasies that are considered unusual by the majority.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

The basic of playing: Consent

Since BDSM games can often be uncomfortable, painful, or even dangerous, consent in BDSM has a special significance.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

What the famous safeword is all about

One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

Vanilla isn’t everyone’s flavor. And that’s fine.

A term to differentiate oneself. However, there are different interpretations of what exactly that means. Much of what was once considered kinky is also practiced by vanillas.