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BDSM and society
Folsom Street Fair: From Leatherman to Pride
Folsom Pride is like a Christopher Street Day for the BDSM and fetish scene. The Berlin branch is called Folsom Europe and takes place every year in September.
Fetish party – A Kinky Nightfever
What is a fetish party? What happens there and how much does it have to do with BDSM? Can I play there too? Find out in this article what awaits you there.
Intox play: Is it BDSM?
Intox Play and Chemsex are currently big topics in the sex-positive community. But can playing under the influence of drugs even be considered BDSM?
BDSM and Pride: Should kink be part of the parade?
Does BDSM belong at Pride? A question that has been much discussed for years. Here are the arguments for and against, as well as a few possible solutions.
Fetish by colors: the Hanky Code
The Hanky Code is unfamiliar to many now, but it used to be a widely used system in the LGBTQ+ scene. Find out here what the colors mean.
BDSM and alcohol: don’t drink and kink!
For many people, alcohol is a stimulant, it relaxes us and puts us in the mood. We explain why he has no place in BDSM.
The Slut: a new sexual confidence
Today, “Slut” in the BDSM context describes a sexually confident person. Here, there’s no fixed hierarchy of top or bottom.
Christopher Street Day: A brief history
The origin of Christopher Street Day is an uprising by homosexuals against police arbitrariness. Today parades take place all over the world. An overview of history.
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