What is a punishment?
A punishment is a sanction imposed on certain behavior that is deemed inappropriate by an authority figure or institution. The term “punishment” is an established term in the fields of law and theology, and especially in educational science.
And of course in BDSM. Here, punishments are a central element and are used by one or more people playing to punish people playing below for misconduct, lack of performance or simply for pleasure. Above all, however, they serve to enforce the power dynamic.
What types of punishment are there?
There are no limits to the imagination when it comes to punishments. There are physical, humiliating and psychological punishments as well as classic punishments in the form of writing sentences or other tasks that the punished person has to complete. We have listed some classic examples for you here.
Spanking as a punishment:
Spanking: Whether crop, paddle, flogger or whip – with the appropriate equipment and intensity, the pleasurable blows also quickly become a punishment.
Bastonade: The bastonade involves blows with a cane on the bare sole of the foot. This technique was used 3000 years ago for punishment and torture, as the nerves on the sole of the foot are extremely sensitive. Depending on the intensity, the person being punished can still feel it with every step they take days after the bastinado.
Other pain stimuli:
Tickle torture: Tickle torture was already used as a tool for interrogation in the Middle Ages. What sounds nice and harmless can be very intense. Being repeatedly driven to the brink of exhaustion, including tears and oxygen deficiency, while completely unable to move is very exhausting and anything but pleasant in the long run.
Figging: Figging involves peeling a ginger root, carving it into a shape and then inserting it into a body orifice, usually anally. This form of punishment originated in the Far East and was used there over a century ago. The essential oils of ginger cause a painful burning sensation but are harmless to the body and therefore one of the safest types of so-called tunnel play. A special ginger spray, which can be applied vaginally, anally or orally to the mucous membranes, is somewhat gentler but no less intense and provides the desired burning effect.
Electrostimulation: Today’s BDSM lover punishes himself or herself in a slightly more modern way thanks to toys with electrical stimulation. Harmless but variably intense electrical impulses race through the nerve tracts, skillfully processed in plugs, dildos or nipple clamps.
Humiliation and pleasure stimuli:
Anal plugs and love balls: Wearing an anal plug for a set period of time is also suitable as a punishing element – and also trains the Bottom for anal play. This punishment can be used in a particularly mean way for activities that are carried out sitting down, such as in the office or when visiting a restaurant. Love balls, on the other hand, are more suitable for people with vaginas for use during mobile activities, such as walks. These toys are now often available with a radio-controlled remote control as an option.
Rimming: is originally a punishment from the Middle Ages in which the person receiving the punishment has to stimulate and penetrate the anus of the dominant person with their tongue as a sign of their submission.
Ignore: Also popular, but to be enjoyed with caution, is to ignore the sub for a while if he or she misbehaves, put them in a corner or make them stay in an uncomfortable pose. Sounds harmless, but even twenty minutes can be quite long. Ignorance as a punishment is particularly popular to bring Brats back to their senses.
Forniphilia: The inability to move is often a component of punishments. Forniphilia is a somewhat special type of restraint. Sub is degraded to an object and has to remain in an uncomfortable position as a piece of furniture, for example. Possible objects include footstools, tables or even candlesticks and clothes racks. The resulting ignorance towards the sub further increases the intensity of the punishment. Or when was the last time you had a conversation with your coffee table?
In addition, there are countless little nasties, such as ice cube treatment, orgasm bans, having to do housework undressed or in lingerie, the ban on underwear in everyday life or, or, or…
What do I have to consider when punishing?
Is the punishment safe?
As always in BDSM, safety first! Agree on a safeword with which the Dom does not continue and releases the sub from the situation.Talk about your boundaries, limits and what you can imagine beforehand.If necessary, have safety tools such as scissors ready if the punishment involves bondage. Because even with punishments, you may only work within the framework of consent.
Is everything okay with you?
Punishments should only be given if everything is okay on a personal level. For example, if there is an unresolved conflict between the people playing, you run the risk of letting negative emotions guide you too much when punishing them. However, this has nothing to do with BDSM or a sense of responsibility.In return, the person receiving the punishment should also be in a good frame of mind.If, for whatever reason, the nerves are already thin or the mental health is affected, humiliating punishment is certainly not a good idea.
Fancy a change?
If you know exactly what he or she is in for, you subconsciously calculate with punishments in order to get the spanking session you long for. If punishments are varied and have a surprising character, this is less likely to happen. So vary your punishments, change them slightly and avoid always having “just” the same punishment to hand.
