What does chastity mean?
Chastity is primarily a concept known from religion for moderation in dealing with sexuality. The word “chaste” is derived from the Latin “conscius”, which roughly means “conscious”. In BDSM, chastity is a form of play in which one person abstains from sex, masturbation and/or orgasms at the request of another, i.e. is kept chaste. This usually involves a submissive person.
The active partner determines how long and under what conditions this happens. The active partner sets the rules according to mutually agreed criteria. A related term is orgasm control.
Why do you want to be chaste?
There are many different reasons why (play) couples want to practice chastity. One major component is, of course, the power differential, which is clearly reinforced and emphasized. This type of play also offers the bottom a great opportunity to prove their devotion to the dominant partner.
Furthermore, the pleasure increases the longer the chastity phase lasts. The chaste person is much more easily aroused by light touches, whispered fantasies and visual stimuli.
If the chastity phase is ended by the dominant partner, the person playing downstairs experiences a particularly intense orgasm. Last but not least, an orgasm that is not permitted during chastity offers the person playing on top scope for punishment or educational measures.
On the active side, the exciting thing about this type of play is the power that is handed over to you by the passive person. After all, the person playing on the bottom completely cedes control of a physical need to the active partner.
The practice is particularly widespread in the special relationship dynamics of hotwifes and cuckolds. If a lockable chastity cage or chastity belt is used, the active person is also referred to as a keyholder. A related variation, in which a man is kept chaste, is feminization, in which a man is trained to be a sissy.
How does chastity work?
In the simplest form, the partner playing on the bottom sticks to the rules set by the partner playing on top. This can be, for example, the prohibition of orgasm and masturbation for several days. Trust in the sub’s obedience is essential here, but methods such as discipline, punishment and rewards are also used.
Another variation is the use of a chastity belt or cage, which is locked with a padlock or numbered cable ties. Edging or tease and denial are often part of chastity. This involves stimulation in order to increase pleasure, but without achieving a release orgasm. In order to prolong the wearing time for male subs, the man can also be “milked” via prostate massages to reduce the pressure in the testicles.
