If the mood shifts during BDSM, it can lead to a drop. We’ll show you 6 possible approaches on how to deal with this situation.
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When online dating, your profile picture is crucial. How do I take a good selfie and how can I score points on a BDSM platform?
How to talk kinky online… and how dafuq not
Profile viewed, smiled at the picture, swiped right. And… It’s a match! But what now? Here are our tips on how to turn the chat into a success.
Everyday family life & BDSM – 8 ideas for kinks despite kids
When there are bottles or Lego bricks lying around everywhere at home, it’s not so easy to get kinky. Here are 8 tips to ensure that kink doesn’t fall short in family life.
STI and STD Part V: safer sex and BDSM
Due to a wide range of practices, the risk of transmission is particularly high in BDSM. Find out what you need for safer sex here.
STI and STD Part IV: infection risks in BDSM
The risk of infection for STDs and STIs is significantly higher in BDSM due to the wide variety of activities. Find out here what you need to watch out for.
How to sub: 12 tips for beginners
You want to experience BDSM as a Sub, give away control, and be dominated? The following tips for novice subs will help you with that.
STI and STD Part II: the 8 most common
What are common sexually transmitted infections? What symptoms do they present? How are they treated, and what are the chances of recovery?
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