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Finally! The feature you’ve all been waiting for is here! With Deviance Search, you can now filter profiles by identification, orientation, kinks, and more.
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Score, you have a match! But now? Who writes first? And what do I write? The first message in can sometimes be quite sweaty. Here are 69 ideas.
Deviance Premium: How does the payment work?
You’ve decided on a premium membership? Great! Here’s how to manage your subscription and settings.
What do the buttons under the profiles mean?
Probably you’ve seen it since the introduction of the premium features: Instead of two buttons, there are now five buttons under each profile suggestion. But what do they mean?
Here they are: new features for your kinky dating!
Finally: The Deviance Premium features are here! Four new functions to increase your chances of exciting kinky encounters. Here’s how.
Say no to drugs! Especially to BDSM and drugs…
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Going through a breakup is terrible. When a partnership ends, that’s bad enough. But what if BDSM was also involved?
Play with yourself: Ideas for kinky masturbation
For BDSM, you need at least two people, right? Can masturbation even be kinky? You bet! Here are a few ideas.
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