Spanko is derived from “spanking,” meaning “to hit.” So, a Spanko is into spanking in the BDSM context, both as the giver and receiver.
Spanko – loves spanks in every aspect
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Fear play – Wild for fear
Fear play is about playing with fear. The top scares the bottom person in a consensual way and both are sexually aroused through this.
Why some people live their kinks 24/7
In a 24/7 relationship, a kink or power imbalance is lived day and night. That’s okay as long as the dominant part has only the best intentions for both.
Longing for security: Little
In BDSM jargon, a Little is a person who likes to adopt toddler-like behavior and is looking for a parental figure of reference.
Electro Play – BDSM with electricity
Electrostimulation has been used in medicine since the 1950s. However, electro play, which involves stimulation with electricity, is also popular in BDSM.
What is a drop and why does it happen?
A drop occurs when someone cannot emotionally handle a BDSM session and negative feelings take hold. Why this happens and how to avoid it.
Primal – Wild thing, you make my heart sing
“Primal” is a BDSM practice in which participants fully embrace their animalistic instincts, including biting, scratching, and grunting.
Keyholder – Playing the key role
Keyholders in BDSM are tops who hold the key to a chastity belt or similar device, thereby controlling the pleasure of another person.
Chastity belt – Closed for fun
Chastity belt: For some a sex toy; for others, an instrument of torture. Find out here what they look like and what they can do.
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