In BDSM, a serf refers to a person who agrees to relinquish total control to someone with whom they are in a relationship.
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What the famous safeword is all about
One of the terms that enjoys great popularity outside the BDSM world is the safeword, which indicates the termination of a session.
Parental Care: Mommy and Daddy
A Mommy or Daddy is a person who takes on a parental and nurturing role within the context of ageplay. Gender-neutral terms for this person include “Caregiver.”
Bull and Cuckcake: The third wheel?
In BDSM, a bull or cuckcake is the third person in a cuckold dynamic who performs sexual acts with the dominant person.
9 repurposed items from the hardware store
Hardware stores offer amazing options, especially for those with smaller BDSM wallets, when it comes to repurposing items for kinky purposes.
Behind the shadows: What is FetLife actually?
You might have heard of FetLife before but couldn’t find it online? We’ll explain why.
Vanilla isn’t everyone’s flavor. And that’s fine.
A term to differentiate oneself. However, there are different interpretations of what exactly that means. Much of what was once considered kinky is also practiced by vanillas.
How is a Top actually defined?
“Top” can refer to a role itself or the general status of a player – namely when they are “on top” and thus in control of the execution.
The popular term “Sub”
The popular term Sub emphasizes the character components of bottom players. How the role is lived is highly individual. The most important thing is the attitude.
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