Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
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Basics
Sadism: The second S in BDSM
Sadism refers to the often sexual pleasure derived from inflicting pain. Where does it come from and how is sadism practiced in BDSM?
Masochism: The M in BDSM
Masochism describes the sexual pleasure derived from suffering and pain. But why do some people enjoy it, and where does this preference come from?
Discipline – The first D in BDSM
The D in BDSM stands for “Discipline,” among other things, and similar to Dominance, it involves following rules. But where is the difference?
Perverse – wrong, twisted, unacceptable?
The term “perverse” originally means “turned around” or “reversed”. The adjective is often used in a sexual context.
Dominance: Something like leadership quality?
Dominance is one of the six major areas and, along with “Discipline,” is behind the D in BDSM. And yet, dominance can manifest itself in various ways.
Aftercare – What it comes down to
Aftercare refers to the mutual psychological and emotional support of the players immediately after a BDSM session by talking about and reflecting on the experience.
Submission – The fine art of surrender
In exploring the concept of submission, one delves into the dynamics of power and trust within interpersonal relationships. A conscious decision to relinquish control or authority.
Limits: hard and soft, but always important
In BDSM, setting limits establishes the framework within which play occurs. There are distinctions between hard and soft limits, which exist on both the submissive and dominant sides.
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