When do we actually talk about “topping from the bottom,” how does this phenomenon arise, and why is it such a controversial term?
Topping from the bottom: your wish is my command
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Basics
Edge play – thrilling experiences near boundaries
In BDSM, edge play refers to practices that involve certain risks to the body or psyche. Games on the edge of the abyss, so to speak.
Dom drop: Those who fly high can fall low
Despite all precautions, things don’t always go smoothly in BDSM. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a dom drop and what causes it.
Sub drop: reaching the lowest point
Despite all precautions, BDSM doesn’t always go smoothly. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a sub drop and what causes it.
Queer: a change of perspective
When you start to explore BDSM and the BDSM community, one of the terms you come across is ‘queer’. But what does that actually mean?
How to get covered properly
" 'to cover' in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because...
What does CNC (consensual non-consent) mean?
CNC stands for consensual non-consent, meaning the desire for something to happen against one’s will. Find out what this can look like here.
Session: it’s time to play!
What exactly is a session? We explain what is meant by the term in BDSM and whether you have to schedule being “kinky.”
I just want to: play!
Why is the term “play” or “play partner” often used in BDSM? While it sounds better than “doing BDSM”, not everyone likes the term.
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