Section

Basics

Playparty – A kinky playground for exploration

Playparty: An event for BDSM and fetish where people play, explore, and observe. What happens there, who can attend, and what should be considered?

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

You’re not a prick for using PRICK!

PRICK sounds humorous, but it’s a BDSM concept for consent and responsibility. Learn how it helps set clear boundaries and foster communication.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

BDSM Outing: What is it and is it necessary?

Why an outing can be important, how it can change your life, and when it might not make sense.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

SM-Studio: Room with a view – of the pillory

A glimpse into the SM-Studio: What awaits you between the pillory, St. Andrew’s cross, and playroom – and why pain can mean pure pleasure here.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

What does a Dominatrix or Dominus do?

A term that also enjoys a certain level of recognition outside the BDSM scene. But what exactly does the job of a Dominatrix entail and what does a visit involve?

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

FRIES – tastes good even without ketchup and mayo

“FRIES is one of many consent models in BDSM, alongside SSC and RACK, and is particularly a good guideline for beginners.”

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Who or what is actually the BDSM community?

When you start exploring BDSM, you often hear the term “scene” or “community” – also here on Deviance. But who are all these people, and when do you become part of it?

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

What is a drop and why does it happen?

A drop occurs when someone cannot emotionally handle a BDSM session and negative feelings take hold. Why this happens and how to avoid it.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Fetish party – A Kinky Nightfever

What is a fetish party? What happens there and how much does it have to do with BDSM? Can I play there too? Find out in this article what awaits you there.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

So… how to get to a BDSM munch?

The culture of BDSM munches is unique to the scene. But what should one wear there? And how does a beginner start a conversation with people?

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

YKINMKBYKIO: I don’t understand it, but I like it!

YKINMKBYKIO stands for Your Kink is not my Kink but your Kink is okay. This is a basic principle of the BDSM community promoting tolerance.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Navigating subspace: into the depths of a submissives mind

The term “subspace” is not about the universe but about BDSM. It refers to a trance-like state where the real self dissociates from the role-playing personality…

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink

The RACK concept cannot be discussed without the SSC philosophy, as it questions the principles of the latter and emphasizes individual responsibility more strongly.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Basics

SSC – Safe, Sane, Consensual

With the rise of the RACK philosophy, the usefulness of SSC has been increasingly questioned, as the principle of safety is considered open to interpretation.

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

Bondage: The thing with the ropes, right?

Bondage, in a sexual context, refers to all types of play in which someone is restrained from moving freely in some way.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Tunnel play: until the (bitter) end

Tunnel play is an umbrella term for BDSM activities that, once started, cannot be stopped. Find out here what makes it appealing.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Punish me! The punishment in BDSM

Punishment is a central element in BDSM. Find out here what purpose it serves, what types there are and, above all, what you need to pay attention to.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Role-play: escaping into pleasure from everyday life

Role-play is not only a popular way to spice up sex life in BDSM. But why do we actually enjoy role-playing?

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

Fetish by colors: the Hanky Code

The Hanky Code is unfamiliar to many now, but it used to be a widely used system in the LGBTQ+ scene. Find out here what the colors mean.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

What does the acronym D/s actually stand for?

D/s is a BDSM abbreviation for Dominance and Submission, referring to the deliberate and consensual creation of unequal power dynamics.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

Sex-positive: party motto or lifestyle?

Just a trendy marketing name for parties or a way of life? Does being sex-positive automatically mean sex parties or just that everyone has a place here? And what does that have to do with book clubs?