What is a session?
The word session can also mean “meeting”, “event” or “treatment”. In BDSM, it refers to the period of time during which participants engage in play or practice BDSM activities. This term is also used by professional Dominatrices for appointments they schedule with their clients.
Session: a BDSM date
There are many different types of BDSM relationships. Of course, you don’t necessarily need time-limited dates to live out these kinks. For example, if you live in a BDSM relationship with your partner, certain kinks could also take place spontaneously or as part of your everyday life together. If you have a play partner, every meeting with this person is likely to be a session. Therefore, the term is rather optional to limit certain play situations.
A planned BDSM date can be exciting and increase anticipation. The appointment gives you the opportunity to prepare better, research practices, collect fantasies and discuss limits. Because especially when it comes to limits, the mood is often lost and it makes sense not to have such conversations just before it starts.
At the same time, it gives us a certain amount of security to limit the situation in which we slip into a role in terms of time and place. But of course you don’t have to plan days and weeks in advance. A session can also be initiated spontaneously or through certain signs and rituals. For example, Sub can indicate the desire to play by putting on the collar. Or a specific command can be given.
How does a BDSM session work?
How a kinky session starts, runs and ends is completely individual. It often depends on the roles that play together. A bondage session is certainly very different from spanking or wax play. Each practice requires different preparation. The duration is just as variable. Ultimately, however, every session should end with aftercare to bring the situation to a close for all participants and avoid drops, i.e. a kind of emotional crash.
