When we talk about a Pet in BDSM, it’s less about our fluffy four-legged friends and more about the Bottom in pet play.
Pet – Adopt don’t shop
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In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
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