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Labels and why they are overrated
Labels provide security, and Germans in particular are known for wanting to standardize everything and call it by name. Why this can sometimes be annoying in BDSM…
How to get covered properly
" 'to cover' in the context of dating refers to securing oneself through informed third parties. This is rarely done today by an old-fashioned chaperone but rather by a trusted person who is informed, along with some thoughtful strategies and a mobile phone. Because...
Diagnosis: Sadomasochism. Do i have a disorder?
BDSM is often seen as a deviation from the norm, but who defines and determines what is “normal” anyway? Guest author Cassie did some research.
The term “Slave” in the context of BDSM
Why “Slave” should no longer be used as a BDSM term in public spaces. A guest post from blogger and Twitterer Poly.
Faster, further, better… about competition in BDSM
Others’ experiences can be very unsettling for BDSM practitioners. Comparisons are inevitable. Guest author Julia on competitive thinking.
Lea – the battle cry of a bore?
“It’s the rage that motivates me to stand up for the BDSM community.” Why Lea, web and app developer in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
How to sub: 12 tips for beginners
You want to experience BDSM as a Sub, give away control, and be dominated? The following tips for novice subs will help you with that.
How to dom: 12 tips for beginners
You’re a beginner and want to explore BDSM as a Dom, taking control? The following tips for Dom beginners from Gentledom.de can help you with that.
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Deviance Premium: How does the payment work?
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