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What does Deviance stand for?

[ˈdiː.vi.əns]
pronounce: [divians]

Literally, for deviation. In psychology, it refers to behaviors that deviate from socially accepted norms and are thus viewed by most people as strange to unacceptable. Especially in the realm of sexuality.

For ideas about which most people hold very strong views and react in a stigmatizing and excluding manner. For deviances we stand by.

For a label we are proud of.

We want people who are unknowingly hiding from each other to find each other.

Education, safe, healthy and consensual practices are what we deeply care for.

What drives us

Our mission is to get BDSM, kink and fetish out of the dirty corner, to give the lifestyle a new attractive face and to promote destigmatization.

What we stand up for

In a world where alternative lifestyles that were considered repulsive just a few years ago are becoming increasingly accepted, it’s time for our lifestyle to be met with greater openness as well.

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What our users say

“I love this amazing BDSM dating platform. I’ve already had plenty of great conversations and met some nice guys… 👌

And maybe I’ve finally hit THE jackpot ❤️😉“‘

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“Simply because I’m so incredibly happy right now, here’s another shoutout for Deviance:

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Thank you 😍”

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“You have created a wonderful meeting place with Deviance! For me, it has already led to valuable, special, and enriching contacts in various ways, and I find the interaction with each other very appreciative. I would almost say that Deviance is a safe space for me, where I feel secure to extend my feelers a bit further and together with some of the Deviance contacts, to make fantasies become reality.”

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“Thanks to you, I met the most amazing sub I could have wished for, and since Tuesday, we’re in the early stages of a relationship. So right from the start, your BDSM dating has already created at least one love story.

Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️”

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“I really like this slow BDSM dating idea from Deviance. The concept works perfectly for me: I consciously take my time to look through profiles, and when I get a match, I’m more patient in connecting with the other person because I’m not already searching elsewhere in parallel.”

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