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The meeting platform for BDSM and fetish enthusiasts

From the community, for the community.

BDSM dating developed together with real BDSM fans.

What does Deviance stand for?

[ˈdiː.vi.əns]
pronounce: [divians]

Literally, for deviation. In psychology, it refers to behaviors
that deviate from socially accepted norms and are thus
viewed by most people as strange to unacceptable.
Especially in the realm of sexuality.

For ideas about which most people hold very strong
views and react in a stigmatizing and excluding manner.
For deviances we stand by.

For a label we are proud of.

We want
that people
who unknowingly
hide from
each other,
find
each other.

Education, safe, healthy and
consensual practices are
what we deeply care for.

What drives us

Our mission is to drag BDSM, kink and fetish
out of the dirty corner, give the lifestyle a new
attractive face and work towards
destigmatization.

What we stand up for

In a world where alternative lifestyles, which a few years ago were
considered repulsive a few years ago are becoming more and more
accepted, it is time that our lifestyle is also
our lifestyle is met with more openness.

In a world where alternative lifestyles that were once
considered repulsive are becoming increasingly accepted,
it’s time for our lifestyle to be met with more
openness as well.

What our users say

“I love this amazing platform. I’ve already had plenty of great conversations and met some nice guys… 👌

And maybe I’ve finally hit THE jackpot ❤️😉“‘

lady_aurely

on X

“I would like to thank you sooooo much. After only about 1 week I found the person who now means everything to me – not just in the BDSM realm. Despite Covid, we got to know and love each other. Without you, we probably never would have met, even though we had lived in the same city for years.”

rhinevillage

Message on X

“In my opinion, the first useful platform for the community.”

Comment on Jodel

“Simply because I’m so incredibly happy right now, here’s another shoutout for Deviance:

I’ve been unbelievably happy for 3 months now, and our kinks align so perfectly. We never would have met without Deviance.
Thank you 😍”

_Anna_Amanda_

on X

“You have created a wonderful meeting place with Deviance! For me, it has already led to valuable, special, and enriching contacts in various ways, and I find the interaction with each other very appreciative. I would almost say that Deviance is a safe space for me, where I feel secure to extend my feelers a bit further and together with some of the Deviance contacts, to make fantasies become reality.”

Tinka

via e-mail

“Thanks to you, I met the most amazing sub I could have wished for, and since Tuesday, we’re in the early stages of a relationship. So, in the beta phase, you’ve already created at least one love story.

Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️”

LadyNora_B

on X

“I’m speechless, seriously. I can only say thank you. I’m taking a look on your website and I love the way you give informations about bondage, movies, music and other things. Finally a right way. I will subscribe on your page. One more time. Thank you.”

@shibari_music

Bondage-Influencer

“I really like this slow-dating idea from Deviance. The concept works perfectly for me: I consciously take my time to look through profiles, and when I get a match, I’m more patient in connecting with the other person because I’m not already searching elsewhere in parallel.”

exp_liz_it

on X

Our Partners

FAQs

What makes Deviance special?

Deviance is a BDSM dating platform developed in collaboration with the community. We conducted months of research, surveys, and countless feedback rounds with our prototype involving real BDSM and fetish enthusiasts to create solutions based on their responses and refine the product step by step. Moving forward, we will continue this approach and work closely with the community. Our vision is to create dating with genuine value. By you, for you.

Interested in contributing? Then reach out to us via the contact form. We’re excited to hear your input!

For which systems is Deviance available?

Deviance works browser-based on all devices—from smartphones to desktops to tablets, and from Chrome to Safari to Firefox—while offering the functionality of a native app. You can even save it as an app icon on your home screen to have your BDSM dating always at hand.

Here’s the link to the WebApp: www.deviance.com/login

Who created Deviance?

Munich-based kinksters with a digital background. Additionally, several dedicated writers and developers from within the kink scene, who incorporate their extensive knowledge and experience into every letter and line of code.

What does Deviance do with my data?

As a German company compliant with the GDPR, we take the protection of your data very seriously. We only collaborate with partners who adhere to the guidelines of the European General Data Protection Regulation and process your data exclusively in encrypted form on our own servers within the country. Aside from the data absolutely necessary for using the app for your BDSM dating, we do not store any of your usage data. If you want to know exactly what this means, take a look at our privacy policy or feel free to contact us via the contact form.

What do the symbols below the profile suggestions mean?

If you’re suggested another profile, you have the option to choose from five actions:
Report, Dislike, Superlike, Like, and Boost Profile.

What each action means and how you can increase your BDSM dating chances can be found here.

What are the premium features?

Deviance has core functionalities like suggestions, matching, chatting, the feed, and soon a few more that are still in development to take your BDSM dating to the next level.

If you want a better experience on Deviance, five premium features are available when you subscribe:

Search for profiles that match you
See who liked you and get in touch right away
Show your interest with Super Likes
Boost your profile to appear more often to others
Place and respond to ads to impress not only with your profile but also with words

What does Deviance cost?

The core features of Deviance for your BDSM dating are free. These include partner suggestions, matching, contacting, the feed, and soon a few more that are currently in development.

In addition, there are four premium features that can be unlocked with a premium subscription. These include:

Search for profiles that match you
See who liked you and get in touch right away
Show your interest with Super Likes
Boost your profile to appear more often to others
Place and respond to ads to impress not only with your profile but also with words

If you want to upgrade your BDSM dating experience and increase your chances, three subscription levels are available: one month for €14.99 if you just want to try it, three months for €34.99, or six months (€54.99). No matter which subscription you choose: Every premium membership supports our project, the development of the app, and ultimately the destigmatization and education about BDSM.

How does the payment work?

If you want to subscribe to a premium plan, you will be redirected to our payment partner NetDebit. After that, you can manage your subscriptions in the menu under your profile picture under “Account” with a single click. Whether it’s one month, three months, or half a year: Your subscription will automatically renew after the term ends unless you follow the steps mentioned above. Please note that the amounts of €14.99, €34.99, or €54.99 will be charged all at once each time. More information can be found here.

What is Deviance's stance on youth protection?

We take the issue of youth protection very seriously. For this reason, our website is built to be compatible with youth protection filter programs, and we intentionally avoid crude or explicit language, images, or other media content.

Additionally, there is an age verification process in the app to prevent minors from using it.

Is Deviance available for interviews, press inquiries or other contributions?

Of course, we’d love to! We have quite a lot to share. For example, what it feels like to start a BDSM dating startup as a young woman, why no bank wanted to give us an account at first, or even how our job ads were blocked. Or how surprisingly high the percentage of BDSM followers in society actually is, and of course everything related to BDSM dating.

Just reach out to us via the contact form or send a quick email to [email protected].

Are you a content creator in the BDSM/fetish/erotic sector and would like to introduce Deviance?

Perfect, let’s definitely work together.

Just send us your idea via the contact form, and we’ll provide you with all the necessary information.

By which criteria do you select the media and influencers for your recommendation articles?

The selection of the listed media in the recommendation articles (blogs, books, films, Instagram accounts, podcasts, music, etc.) is based on surveys that we conduct offline and online through various channels within the scene.

In the first step, we focus on the frequency of mentions. To avoid always listing the same five to ten names, we curate internally in the second step to create a good mix of national and international accounts, as well as well-known and “hidden gems.”

If you think someone or something is missing or if there is incorrect information, feel free to send us your suggestions or feedback through the contact form.

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